Going through the adoption process is a lot like dating. We have had our profile in the ‘online personals’ (i.e. adoption website) for the past year and a half, and for the past three weeks we have been dating someone (hooray!). Going to dinner, spending time together, asking any and every question we would ever want to know about each other. Wondering how much contact is too little or too much, etc. We thought it was time to introduce her to the neighbors in our bloggerhood. Her name is Megan and she is a birthmom due in mid-June (and yes, this time she is a birthmom who IS actually pregnant!).
The first time we met Megan was over lunch with her parents. You never know how that first meeting will go, but Megan and her parents were so comfortable and friendly. We spent two hours just talking about everything.
Then it was time to bring in the big guns (aka Avery). Before taking her to dinner the next week, we did our best to coach Avery (for 3 days!) NOT to ask or assume anything about Megan’s decision. Half way through dinner (and totally out of the blue) Avery asked “Have you ‘dezided’ to give us your baby yet?” Kyle and I were mortified…all our efforts were in vain! Kyle was speechless and all I could do was laugh out of embarrassment. Fortunately, Megan wasn’t offended and said “Actually I have decided to pick you, but I didn’t know how to bring it up…so thanks for doing it for me!” It was such a crazy and unbelievable moment. What a relief! Describing it now, makes me cry. The funniest part of the night was when Megan asked if we had any names we liked and Avery informed all of us that she really liked the name ‘Whiskers.’
Since then, we have spent time with Megan and her family on multiple occasions. This will be an open adoption and we are so grateful to go through this with such a great family. Megan is an amazing person and it has been great getting to know her. Her willingness to do for us what we cannot do for ourselves is the definition of Christ-like service.
Oh yeah, before I forget, she is having a… boy! YAY!!